Dating a guy in a wheelchair braces and dating
If you had posed the question to me 30 years ago, I would have answered in the same manner.
I would choose a romantic partner who's mental and physical state was near mine to increase the odds of us aging together in similar fashion, and decreasing the odds of long term complexities in the health arena that are the reality of confinement to a wheelchair over the long term (which is a way bigger deal than this statement "it doesn't matter what your physical appearance is like".) That's a very sensible reason--one that my peers (although I am NOT several decades younger than you) had not expressed when I asked them. After a couple of dates he had a problem discerning me, his date, from a caregiver.
They forget that no relationship is smooth sailing as the years go by. In the long run, it doesn't matter what your physical appearance is like. Berit "Brit" Brogaard is an author of The Superhuman Mind and the author of That I would become romantically involved with someone in a wheelchair.
This is not because I am concerned about family - I am 58 years old, my parents are dead and I don't have children. I am married, but my spouse is 11 years my senior in age, so, statistically, I will probably experience widowhood.
The question here is directed at non-wheelchair users (which include myself).
Some of you may reply "yes," because it is in line with your ideology, because it would be politically incorrect to say "no," or because you are happily married, and there is no conceivable chance (in your mind) that you will ever date again. If you were single and went to a party that was "happening," and you spotted an attractive girl in a wheelchair (or guy in a wheelchair), would you consider chatting her up?
It’s 10.55pm and I’m sat at my computer, tabbing between Facebook and Gmail while I try to decide if this is a good idea or not. Instead, I’m doing this because somebody needs to tell the truth about what it’s like to date with a disability.
Somebody needs to ‘lift the veil’ on how being disabled affects dating, whether it makes it more difficult, but also see how to overcome those difficulties.
Honestly: would you openly date and marry a person confined to wheelchair?Or would the very thought of hitting on her make you feel embarrassed, not least if you were in the presence of your friends?The most realistic answer to these questions is that even if the hottest girl at the party were the girl in the wheel chair, you would check out the second-hottest girl. But people have walked on fire to get a girl (or guy) they were attracted to.I am coming from a perspective that, at my age, I don't want to add complexity to my life, and becoming involved with a wheelchair bound person would probability add such complexity.Even the logistics of travel is complex with such a disability.